Bible view on dating
Community Q&A Do you want to have God at the center of your dating relationship?Would you like God to influence the love you show another person?
—————- With Spring just around the corner I thought it would be a great time to give you aspiring lovers out there some tips on dating.Any time someone else’s heart is in your hands that is a huge responsibility and you should never seek to use another person in order to fulfill your own desires.RULE NUMBER THREE: Always return your date home “more holy” than she was when you picked her up.This rule really applies more to men than it does to women, and it is something that my college buddies and I used to tell each other whenever we took a girl out.Often times the phrase “follow your heart” really only means “follow your youthful lusts.” The Bible actually gives us some great insight into the heart, as we read in Jeremiah 17:9, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” Better advice when dating someone would be, “listen to the counsel of others,” or “seek to be wise in your relationships.” These phrases aren’t as cool or as much fun as “follow your heart” but in the end they will lead you to much more joy and fulfillment. From the beginning of time men and women have tried to enter into some sort of dating relationship “casually.” Where the relationship “wasn’t so defined” or where “they were just going to take it day by day.” In the end, 100% of the time, these “casual dating configurations” leave somebody hurt, because one person is more committed to the relationship than the other.
Dating doesn’t exist to have someone that you can hang out with or “make out” with on the side, dating is designed for the pursuit of marriage.
Dating is a serious game and one that you should enter into with prayer and with humility.
Now I know what you are thinking isn’t this guy a pastor? But my hope in this is only to help you, after all God created relationships, and so you would be a fool to not at least consider his a perspective on dating that is grounded in scripture.
And beyond Biblical perspective, this advice also comes from experience, if I have to be honest when I was single and dating I broke every one of these rules in one way or another and it always cost me.
So if you are “single and looking” I hope this list will help you avoid some of the major pitfalls so many people find themselves in, and I hope it will help you to glorify God in your relationships. If you watch any TV show aimed at an audience of 12-25 year olds you will hear at some point on any given episode the phrase: “follow your heart,” or “I just had to follow my heart.” This idea of “living in the now” and “following your heart” pervades our culture and can be very dangerous.
Now, don’t get me wrong, emotion and compatibility are important in relationships but they are not the most important things.